we are SO proud of you for being able to post what you did...you're very brave and we know what a challenge it is so that makes it all the more WOW!! brava dear heart!! </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
It's as if I need someone to give me permission to do this.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> you have MUCH support on this site here </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I need someone to tell me that I will not be doing anything wrong by doing this.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> you are NOT doing anything wrong by doing this...if anything you are HONOURING yourself by listening to your needs first </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I need someone to help me not feel guilty about all this.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> don't feel guilty angel...you have nothing to feel guilt over....you seek safety from harm...there is no guilt in that.....that is basic survival and needs to be more of a human RIGHT </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I need someone to tell me I have the right to defend myself.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> you not only have the right to defend yourself you CAN!</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I am an abusive situation and I need your help.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> dear heart there used to be a poster on this site who worked as domestic abuse counselor....perhaps someone knows name as we are too forgetful at moment to recall who but she used to post very helpful things to ppl in situations similar to yours.

you CAN do this time0. we believe in you. you've shown us such a kind heart...open that kind heart to yourself and treat yourself with the kindness you've deserved all these years.....may 2007 bring you safety and peace.