I can certainly understand why you would be hurt and crushed by him telling you that. I think he was being cruel to tell you that.

I have to admit, he was sending up red flags along the way. He obviously has trouble with intimacy, not just with you but in general. I'm sorry you had to go through this, it is his issues not you that caused this breakup.
You will have to go through the grieving process and you might want to post in the Grief Forum. I would suggest you get a counselor to help you through this as well.