I think you need to sort out and differentiate between the following:
- what other people think of your husband
- what you think of your husband
- what you think of yourself

I found it really curious that, in your first post, you told us that everyone else loves him and there is nothing wrong with him. If I wrote about my husband I wouldn't bother telling you everyone else loves him because I love him and I'm the one married to him. I'm not criticising you. Rather, I'm wondering if you're trying to use everyone else's opinions to tell yourself how you should feel.

I have a few thoughts. Firstly, do you feel smothered? Your husband sounds lovely. But if he's that relentlessly lovely, it could get a bit exhausting. What was your childhood home like? Are you used to marriages having some drama and arguments in them? Does it feel wrong to you if everything is just calm? Just wondering. I'm not criticising your husband, I'm just wondering if you find his stability and reliability uncomfortable as I don't know what you're used to. Maybe you need to shake it up a bit. Go on some date nights with your husband, that kind of thing.

I don't understand why you are doing all the housework when you have a job as well. Forget how much money you make. You still go out to work and put in the time.

Regarding work, would you consider trying to start your own freelance business?