I've never exactly been Casanova or Don Juan anyway. I always had problems in this department, it was mainly a fluke I ever had any relationships at all, I was the pine from afar guy, frankly the few women I was involved with did the pursuing, and had many issues of their own. My first was an incest survivor, which was strange too, she had problems but also had a lot of good perspective through the pain and emotional health about the issue to a great degree. The last, the love of my life if only it could be, was married and too devout in her faith to consider divorce, was willing to have an affair but I couldn't go there.

So, IF and WHEN I feel like dating again, what in the H do I say about my state of MH? I know it's not something that would need to happen on the first few dates, but I think it's a pretty "big" thing, and it would have to be broached to be fair and honest. I am afraid it would be a deal breaker, or the other way, and I would be made a test case in someone's ability to "save" me from my own problems, and I gotta save myself to be healthy mentally. Certainly, it would have to come up before any intimacy -- I couldn't drop that bomb on someone after coming that close to them -- oh, by the way, I didn't tell you this before going to bed with you, but I'm being treated for mental illness. I'm too ethical for that.

So, how do you even begin to "go there" in that type of situation?