We have been living our life without participation of the original/host. We are not aware of her except when she is crying and freaked out. And that only happens in the evening. And we are not even sure she is the original/host. She does feel different than the rest of us though. This past session my t and us were trying to figure out a way to communicate with the original/host. When she is crying and freaked out we are unable to have a dialogue with her. She just cries, says this isn't real and freaks out. My t gave me some good ideas like instead of her freaking out and in denial we should encourage her to accept it as real and than she can freak out over that. Thinking that if she can accept it as real she will eventually stop freaking out and start to talk to us. It may sound strange but we think this will help her to change her focus to acceptance but also not force her to change her reaction to the knowledge. It feels right for us. I was wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience and if so what did you do to communicate with your original/host? And please don't tell me that who ever is in the world is the host. I have three that are in the world who work, drive, do the banking, food shopping etc, and another two in the world who get difficult things done that need to get done. I do not have a single alter we consider a host. Hope I don't sound rude. If so sorry.