I was talking to my counselor today about the whole issue of trying to get close to people and how I go through this phase when I first meet of being pretty open and not worrying if they like me. . .then that moves into if some people do like me or I like them. . .then I almost have a certain "image" that I think I have to upkeep. Like if they think I'm a good mother, or nice, or funny, or spiritual. Then if I'm having a moment where I think I have done something against that nature that I feel they have of me I worry if they'll still like me.

My counselor said. . . "Oh, so you're always managing your identity." I nodded, then on my way home thought. . . I wonder what exactly that means? Is it just trying to always be the same person and not have ups and downs an moods?

I'm just not entirely sure I know what it means. I'm going to try and ask him next week. . . or email him about it. But I'm wondering if anyone has heard that phrase and if it's a standard psychological term.