Cally - that's excellent to hear that you don't have issues with self-esteem!!!

I'm gonna try making a guess to see if I can get closer (or futher) to understanding you:
Do you think you're a good person (yes you do) but what do you think OTHER people think of you?

If you think you're great, but still think that other people are going to criticize, reject, or judge you allll the time... then AvPD would still fit a-ok.

What about the criteria do you think fits you or doesn't fit you? I think each symptom fits me EXCEPT I do not consider myself to be socially inept. I've actually got great social skills because I learned how to act!