Hi there Simon. It sounds like you have made a good start on living a sane, balanced life when all around you are dysfunctional. That's not easy, and I'm with those who say, "Bravo!"

Drunks, by the way, (a) are in denial about their dysfunction -- completely totally completely blind to it and (b) need to get other people in their tippy little boat to reassure themselves that they're okay. I was a drunk for a long time and spent a lot of year getting sober and a lot of years after that getting sane.

You are so ahead of the game to be where you are at your age instead of wasting half or more of your life in pubs with drunks.

I believe that you will meet up with other people who are like you, share you values, and your interests. It may take longer than you'd prefer, as most of us want things yesterday, but I am sure of it.

Hang in there.