Hi Lovebird,

Thanks for being so open. Hope you don't mind if I do the same. First of all, I agree with your main point, the actress in the article is very misguided and naive. Looks fade as we age, maybe not for Brad Pitt (although he doesn't do anything for me either), but when you have an emotional bond and loving friendship with another human being that IS the spark. Sure you have to work at it over the years, but you can't sustain a relationship (or even great sex, after the first few dozen or so times) on pretty packaging alone.

Secondly, you should (we all should) be having great sex, and if that doesn't happen with your husband (or w/ any man) then you should try to do something about it! Since you mentioned your attraction to women, is there any way to bring that aspect into your relationship with your husband in order to spice things up a bit? Whether it be a "hall pass" or something else, you should open yourself up to idea. I've heard plenty of people do! (I would use my "hall pass" on Mary Louise Parker).