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Old Oct 06, 2013, 08:40 AM
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Originally Posted by healed84 View Post
In my case, the feeling of attachment is one of, I don't won't to leave him no matter what b/c he is good for me kind of feeling. Like I mentioned, I have this feeling that I won't change or can't change and if that is the case, then really I should leave T b/c it is the waste of time for the both of us. However the feeling I get when thinking about not seeing T makes me think I am attached. I got this way because really for me.. He has showed me time and time again that he is not going anywhere (which is huge for me) and he is a steady, stable, person in my life whom I can spill my guts to on a weekly basis. I don't know if that makes it any more clear or not.
And that right there, that assurance that he is there for you and not going anywhere, can be very healing.

It's a tricky thing about therapy: sometimes you feel like you're getting nowhere but actually a lot of important stuff is happening beneath the surface. Other times you really are wasting your time. It can be hard to know.