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Originally Posted by healed84
In my case, the feeling of attachment is one of, I don't won't to leave him no matter what b/c he is good for me kind of feeling. Like I mentioned, I have this feeling that I won't change or can't change and if that is the case, then really I should leave T b/c it is the waste of time for the both of us. However the feeling I get when thinking about not seeing T makes me think I am attached. I got this way because really for me.. He has showed me time and time again that he is not going anywhere (which is huge for me) and he is a steady, stable, person in my life whom I can spill my guts to on a weekly basis. I don't know if that makes it any more clear or not.
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And that right there, that assurance that he is there for you and not going anywhere, can be very healing.
It's a tricky thing about therapy: sometimes you feel like you're getting nowhere but actually a lot of important stuff is happening beneath the surface. Other times you really are wasting your time. It can be hard to know.