My counselor is the first one who noticed I would switch, and she was the first I felt comfortable admitting to switching in front of. Lately we have talked about different issues, and more than one of us has a different reaction. I wrote down the differences in reactions, as well as the different types of support each responds best to. These are things that I have done to build trust between all of us. I'm wary of giving it to her, though because I dont' want her to think I'm trying to tell her how to do her job. As well, she is not my t, and so is not meant to do any in depth work with the alters. She supports us in everyday situations.
I just feel that I might not be so frustrating to work with if she understood that when I get on "this" topic/reaction, it is H, and she will relax quicker if people understand 'x' about her. When she's out though, she has no ability to tell my counselor what would help.
Any ideas??