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I feel there's lotta false dichotomies among suffers of mental quirks. I am bad person/it's all my illness
I think this is a really good point. The dichotomies you see with bipolar and other mental illnesses -that struggle between 'it's my fault, I'm bad' and 'it's the illness/diagnosis, I'm not bad.' I think both the first and even the second, at least in part, come from guilt and shame. Of one's behavior, of the stigma, our roles in our relationships with others...
I guess, as Venus (can I call you that?) says, acceptance of one's quirks (I like when you use that word), flaws, weaknesses, without blaming *either* ourselves, *or* our diagnoses can keep us moving forward. Accepting that we deserve compassion (from ourselves and others) and others, equally, deserve compassion, for their own struggles that may be different, but no less difficult, than our own, and for how our illnesses (quirks, flaws, weaknesses, 'screwing up') affects them.
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