you're allowing her to abuse you.......give her X days to get a job and find another place to live. if she has stolen that much from you, you'll end up penniless if she stays with you. 21 is old enough to be upon her own.

and i KNOW how hard it is to draw the line for your children, but always remember this, if you don't draw it..........they are going to trip up on it somewhere else some day and will be hurt a lot worse than they will be if you do it.

she will appreciate your toughlove, later, and you aren't going to end up a lonely old woman........i had plenty of disputes with my girls and stepsons and no one abandoned me. it's hard, but you can do this. we'll help you get through it.........love ya, pat