Even if you don't have kids or grandkids, does anyone have any advice? I thought kids love their grandparents unconditionally--naive I know. My only grandma that I knew died when I was 6. She didn't talk much English so maybe I didn't have much of a relationship with her either.

I play with my own grandchildren, give them attention, and do all nice things for them but for kids of both families to gravitate toward the other grandma makes me think I'm defective. It reminds me of being rejected by other kids when I was little. I'm not "good enough" for my own grandchildren to want to be with me.