Stop rescuing them, all of them. Some times rescuing people from their problems will make things worse for you and them. All you are really doing, is re-enforcing their feelings that they can' t take care of thier own problems and responsabilitys. Thus they will continue to be helpless, and drag you down with them.

Also you are causing them to miss the opportunity to take care of them selves. You are robbing them of their own power!