While not like you, I can sort of relate. I'm in the middle.
I have 6 people I call friends. But even them I don't talk to daily (i've met up with them (different ones at different times) four times this year) And I am quite content with that. I know they are my "friends" though and it took us about 7 years to get where we are today.
They are good friends (at least more than I expect from anyone) but they aren't generally "there for me". I'm usually private about my problems and they allow me to tell them things in there own time and don't push to know more than I tell them. While this backs up your theory about "not caring about others pathetic lives" - this is the best kind of friend for me. I get highly irritable around people who pay too much attention to me. So I guess thats why we just work well together.
The dependant part of me appears when i'm with them and I love them dearly and am always in awe at how easily they accept me but in the back of my mind i'm always still cautious about managing my behavior/moods/thoughts around them. Basically they are as good a friend as i'll ever allow myself to have.
However, I have no interest in making new friends. I tend to talk to people for a little while and then slowly stop talking to them for a year, then two, then ever. And should these friendships end up somehow not working out either - I have absolutely no interest in making any more.
I've talked with T about this. The schizotypal part of me craves isolation and she says that it is abnormal to want to be alone as much as I do. I went on to tell her how we were born alone, will die alone, and thus should be able to survive alone. And she went on to tell me about this research on orphan babies who died when they weren't touched/held (there were too many of them and they were fed and changed but no more attention was paid to them and they simply did not thrive).
So maybe we are supposed to have friends/relationships - but most times I feel its best not to.
I don't think anyone really cares completely about anyone elses lives but their own. Some may care more than others, but in the end its all about self satisfaction. Friendships/relationships suck. And they usually aren't worth having. I don't think you're a freak at all.
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