The worst thing about being a survivor is that we can't really have casual relationships... it always comes down to "do I tell or not?"

I think that trust is HUGE thing, and I know, I've been there. If you really love him, then you must decide if you want to take the plunge or not. If you don't tell him, you might lose him anyway, and if you do tell him, you risk the same outcome. It is a ig step of faith that we as survivors must take some time or another, but be sure it is the right person.

I would say it would be a good idea to talk to him before you go to far and he asks questions. Choose a time when you are comfortable and feel safe... being half naked might not be the best time to spill your guts...

Good luck on whatever you choose to do.... and remember that you are not alone in this...