I am female, and the only two Ts I have ever 'clicked' with have been male. I tried two female Ts, one was sort of okay, but too inconsistent for me to trust; the other was a disaster for me (actually ended up yelling at me and was quite harsh). I tried a female Pdoc which was also a disaster. The male pdoc I saw later didn't believe me at first when I said she didn't like me, but then got her records and apologized for doubting me. LOL. His comment was, "wow, she REALLY didn't like you." I tried one male T who I disliked, but then started with my current T (male) who is a good match for me.

My life experience (in 'real' life and in therapy) has been that men are more reliable and more trustworthy, less prone to big attitude swings, less emotional and less apt to suddenly turn on me with no warning. In the last few years, I have met and made friends with women who are reliable and who I trust, but that is a relatively recent phenomenon for me.