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Originally Posted by Citrine
Im not scared of my bosses at all. Ive worked for many years and people in charge of others are very often not worth the respect they command. Many managers get where they are for all the wrong reasons. No one should feel frightened of their boss. Even if you do something wrong (within normal working practice) you should not be intimidated. You will receive criticism, based on your work and should be given the advice need to stop the incident happening again. Your company pays you to carry out what is in your work description and contract. Thats all you need to worry about. You need to start worrying if they make life difficult and become personal.
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Yes, I agree on this comment.
From things I heard about my boss and things I've heard him say I am not scared of him. I feel like he fears me more than I do of him. I feel it has to do with the fact I'm a woman and I heard that he didn't have the best divorce. I do not put that towards him in a bad way though because everybody had their own insecurities. I just need to find better ways to communicate back to him. I need to speak up the next time I hear him say something bad about someone or me because I it isn't right and I have the rights for my own and others respect. I only want to give respect to others.
Example of something he had said was when I was trying to get something clear to me. My brain can be slower at processing what others say so I may ask more than a typical person due to a hearing disorder I have. He said after a co-worker had laughed that yes some take doggy steps at a time. I couldn't think of what to say back at the time so I just looked at him and walked away. I could of said though "Yes, it is common for bosses in your position to think employees are stupid, though I wasn't expecting it coming from you." <-- He would of rethought of what he had said. I learned that saying from my assertive course after he had said that a few month ago. Another saying I think that would help is "Hey (their name), thanks for reminding me how hurtful insults can be." Then just walk away and laugh it off. And I mean actually laugh it off.
There is no point of fearing your boss. You have every right to be your own judge and agree on what is correct in the bosses critsicim and disagreeing on what is incorrect upon yourself towards them and their thoughts on you. If it's true agree on it, if it's partical true agree on what is true in the their thoughts and if there is no truth disagree on it and ask what makes them say that or tell them you do not understand.