Interesting stuff. I believe you and he could be in the same body.
The love of my life, long lost, told me he was a hermaphrodite in a past life - his psychic grandmother had told him, and had told him he was about to meet his soul mate with my description. We would laugh - along with him - doubting that was a truth. We lost touch except for in dreams, I was married it was not meant to be in this lifetime. So many years later, I went to a psychic fair and had a 20 minute session with a woman. My question was if I'd been a healer in a past life... She went in detail about 5k years ago, I was born to a native tribe, no I was not exactly a healer but, "Oh wow, this is special, they know you're coming, they are very excited... you are a hermaphrodite baby, very revered, but they don't know where to raise you - with the women or with the men? so the shaman and medicine woman decide to raise you between them, since they both don't have children. It's so interesting, you are not at all lonely, you will never marry but you are ok with it... the tribe considers this very lucky that you came to them..." ... so I very much believe her. I know it's true. I still miss him every day and wonder if it has to do with feeling so lonely in this life. - That's the short version.

So if we go with the idea you are the 2 souls in the 1 body - I'm so curious do you feel lonely or complete or any theme like that in this life? I would believe that the agreement to go in together was made before your birth while you were both in pure light spirit form, to be together or help each other, or help the family. What do you think?