I am a guy (male).

My current T is a female, very attractive, and one who I knew if I opened up to I would probably fall for. I did (partially because I'm extremely lonely in life). She has a vibrant personality and our rapport has been, overall, terrific. There are things I can talk about with her that I was never really able to talk about with any of the handful of male therapists I've seen at different periods of my life. Opening up and entrusting myself to this female T was, and in some ways still is, challenging for me. But she's been very good for me, and I know she's helped me with different topics that I had never discussed in depth with male therapists.

That said, I am not sure how long I can stay with her, and I am interested now in going back to a male T. The transference or just plain feelings for female T was and remains so strong, I want a break from that. In fact, I already have a new, male T who is my vocational T. So I currently have one of each gender. There is still lightning in the room when I am in session with female T, and yes we've talked about it. With male T, it is easier or more comfortable because that romantic /sexual attraction is not an issue. But with female T, transference issues involving other females in my life crop up, so I value that. But I like them both, as therapists.