Thanks all. Yeah, I'm looking for what someone would ask for if they needed help outside of the day to day stuff they go to therapy for. I'm working on being able to ask for help before i hit a crisis point. But as someone above mentioned, there's shame and "I should be able to handle this myself" thinking. I've beentold I need to articulate my struggles before they become all huge I need drastic intervention. The only problem is, I don't know how anyone could help with that. It's a matter of drinking in thoughts and behaviors that can get dangerous. So maybe a reminder of my skills (but that can get annoying and off-putting since I know what I should be doing, I just can't get myself to that point). I don't know. Someone to talk to about all of it? Maybe being heard helps? I know taking helps, but I'm pretty sure everyone has their limits on what they want to hear and how many times. Um, maybe validation? Or someone to genuinely counter all the negative stuff? Physical touch creeps me out from most people, but maybe on a very rare occasion a hug? I really just have no idea.
The goal is to be able to ask for help before I'm so far down that I need to go to the er. But the messages growing up were always "you can do that yourself. You don't need help". That's all fine and dandy until that moment when I just can't Do that anymore... so what does one needed before they get to that point?