Hi Melody Bells, thanks

No, it wasn't bad phrasing, it was a written response to a message I sent her after our session where I was feeling ashamed and bad for how much resentment I'd disclosed for a member of my family. I was all like "I'm weak and pathetic etc" and she said no I wasn't, and I said basically I had no idea when I crossed that line with my family person, and so had no idea when I'd become too much/too needy with the therapist. And then she said what she said. Whereas before, she seemed adamant that I wasn't at all needy...

Urgh I don't know. I really can't broach any of this with her. Especially not the lack of warmth - I cannot make myself say "but why don't you call me pet names anymore, or put x's on the end of your mails?" How neurotic does that look!