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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
Hi Melody Bells, thanks 
No, it wasn't bad phrasing, it was a written response to a message I sent her after our session where I was feeling ashamed and bad for how much resentment I'd disclosed for a member of my family. I was all like "I'm weak and pathetic etc" and she said no I wasn't, and I said basically I had no idea when I crossed that line with my family person, and so had no idea when I'd become too much/too needy with the therapist. And then she said what she said. Whereas before, she seemed adamant that I wasn't at all needy...
Urgh I don't know. I really can't broach any of this with her. Especially not the lack of warmth - I cannot make myself say "but why don't you call me pet names anymore, or put x's on the end of your mails?" How neurotic does that look!  |
Thank you for explaining this situation. Since this was written there may be more chances for misunderstandings. I know it's hard to bring this up with her, though! It makes you feel more vulnerable!
If it helps, I did with my T when she did something similar.
I whined in a childish voice about "
why don't you xxx anymore..." and rambled on about how confused and hurt I was. She listened to my feelings with empathy, explained some stuff, and we repaired the rupture.
Please keep us updated on what you decide to do and how you're feeling.
