I agree wholeheartedly about talking to him about it. If you're not comfortable with him incorporating these things into the bedroom, they should stop. Period. He needs to understand that porn is not a realistic representation of sex in the slightest, anymore than say Call of Duty is a representation of real warfare. It's stylized, fictionalized, and exaggerated, and is *not* a "how to" type of thing. Based on his logic here, if he can watch a porno and be fantastic at sex, then at my current state of Call of Duty prowess, I should be able to airdrop into Syria and have this whole thing wrapped up by tomorrow. An extreme analogy, sure, but you see the point?

I hope things get resolved soon, and I wish you my best.

Hugs,
Harley