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Originally Posted by seekersinking
Thanks everyone for the encouragement. This current job I took only until I could find something better. We all know the economy is bad. It spite of what the news says, I do not believe it has gotten any better. Perhaps the problems will bottom out soon.
Anyway, in addition to being a little less fearful of my employer today, I also feel a somewhat disgusted. Saturday, I went to a clients home, and today was told I went there too early. I was blamed for going at the wrong time (15 min. too early) when they wrote down on paper the time I was to go. So, I guess they are trying to blame me for this error. In my mind, I will not accept it! It is not my fault. I will not feel bad about it. (They called me up today to tell me of my mistake while I was with a client. Why could they not wait until I left? (They knew exactly what time I was to leave)). These are rhetorical questions, of course.
I have asked myself, why have these last two jobs been so difficult? I recognize that part of it is due to my personal psychological struggles. I have made up a list of questions before going to an interview, and it seems that I still did not ask the right questions.
I guess right now I need some encouragement.  |
What I recommend to anyone is the book: When I say no I feel guilty by Manuel J. Smith
This book helps a lot with encouragement and helps you be just you!
Here's a quote from the book and it's actually the chapters:
A BILL OF ASSERTIVE RIGHTS
I: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
II: You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.
III: You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.
IV: You have the right to change your mind.
V: You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them.
VI: You have the right to say, “I don’t know.”
VII: You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.
VIII: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
IX: You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”
X: You have the right to say, “I don’t care.”
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO, WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY”