You are right the BPD's may have a hard time taking responsibility for their own actions, or seeing there part in a disagreement, but...this man is his own kind of crazy. In fact, he may be BPD himself. You aren't making hime this way. In fact, HE is refusing to take responsibility for HIS actions. And what about the way he treated his children? Seriously, this is not your fault. As I said before, I would be so outta there. You, dear, are being abused.