mona, it is ok that you are feeling jealous. you are allowed to feel your feelings. the jealousy can give you insight into what you need. you can then take steps to get those needs met in healthy ways.

i have to agree that this therapy with your prof & friend is a dual relationship and sounds pretty questionable in it's practice. dual relationships are not recommended. i had one with my last individual T for a class she taught (artist's way) and it didn't go well. i ended up not going back to her for anything because she acted unprofessionally toward me. (she tried to manipulate me into staying in the class when i needed to drop. she went so far as to say she started the class for me which is just inappropriate and guilt-tripping.) i would have never expected that to happen and i share it to give an example of how convoluted these things can get even when both parties have good intentions. it seems there are just myriad ways things can get messed up when dual relationships happen.

the holding your friend for 1/2 hour? i don't know, i thought those sorts of therapies were tried in the 60s or 70s and found to do more damage in the long run for the client. even if this is a legitimate form of therapy your prof shouldn't be practicing it on her students at her home. she should refer her student to someone else. because there is a huge power differential in the relationship it doesn't really matter whether your friend thought it was ok or not. even if your friend had thought it wasn't ok she may have felt powerless to say no to her professor.

i know you didn't mean to be starting a debate about your prof's therapy approach when you posted. it is good to feel our feelings and i'm sorry you are hurting so.