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Originally Posted by manwithnofriends
Seriously, how can you expect this kind of thinking to be "correctable"? When pretty much EVERY event in life is success or failure. You either pass the exam or you don't. You either get the job or you don't. Success = good. Failure = not good enough/bad. Of course one can say "failure is not the opposite of success, it'll only lead to success". Yeah right. Tell THAT to someone who hasn't got a response to any of his THOUSAND job applications...
(that's not me btw, that's someone who was on a newspaper just for failing a thousand job applications. she has a job now just because of her newspaper's campaign. jealous)
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I can relate. All or nothing thinking is one of my most disruptive cognitive distortions. I'm a college student and I either get an A or I fail at life. I'm also very results-orientated (ie: if I'm going to eat healthy, I'd want to see results in my weight right away). Through therapy, I learned/am working on focusing on my progress and effort rather than the result... so if I get a B, I'm (trying to) accept that I tried my hardest given the circumstances and bask in that... I don't find it so realistic, but I'm giving it a chance because I really want my thinking patterns to change. I have so much anxiety and depression as a result of these cognitive distortions.