I can relate to all of that ..
I could check off damn near all of them .. I dont get the happy Mania I get the ugly kind. Yes my Daughter is Bipolar, I got over feeling guilty about it. She's living her life and loving it.
One thing I no longer do at all is want to be " normal" <~~ There is no such thing as normal . When I stopped comparing myself to something that doesn't exist I felt better.. No it won't fix everything but it made a huge difference.
Very very few people know I have Bipolar. I just see no reason to tell people.
Yes your Boyfriend is a keeper