I know you're absolutely right. It's a habit that's been drummed into me ever since I was a kid--to be helpful, to do other's menial tasks without pay, or very little pay, such as housecleaning etc. No one would believe I have a masters degree from University of Michigan, yet I undervalue myself to such a degree that I've allowed myself to be a free servant to others. Perhaps I'll check out a codependency group. I really do appreciate your feedback. Reading what people like you say about my situation seems to make it something that's not just in my imagination and gives it some reality. God, I know I need to start doing things differently because the same old reactionary ways aren't working. In fact, they are bringing me closer to the end of my life lived in the shadows of others. Again, I really, really appreciate your feedback.