I think I'm finally getting a glimmer, but it's taken a long time. I see the process as basically me going to sessions and talking with T. My part is to be as open and honest as possible in what I convey - words, emotions. No hiding or holding back (ha! I'm talking ideal here). The T's part of the process is using his knowledge of psychology and human behavior and different modalities that can be used in a therapeutic setting, and how skillful he is as a T and whether he is able to attune to me or not.

So in other words as the sessions take place, the process unfolds as time passes. Stuff happens, ruptures occur, misunderstandings, mistakes are made. The r/s becomes deeper, or maybe falls apart.

Hard to explain, but I do feel I'm understanding it better. At least I now understand the phrase "trust the process" which I interpret as just keep showing up and eventually it will pay off. And it has.