I think I'm beginning to understand the phrase, kind of what gaylegg said. My therapist always tells me that therapy is a process but not how that process goes. I don't know why because I've asked her to give me a step by step and she says it doesn't work that way. I think it's like whatever comes up..it gets processed..that's why you can't really plan it. IDK...cause I've never really had therapy in the past and this is my first time. For me though this "process" is very painful, difficult and time consuming. I think I'm slow or something cause I've told her and she says some people take longer than others. But with that she has said I have major trust issues and that takes time to work on, that you can't speed that process up because it wouldn't be healthy...blah. I feel dumb..lol..therapy is weird to me.