The way I understand it is that I go through phases in therapy. The phases are sometimes about therapy itself, how I'm feeling about my T, about the material we're covering and about myself as I go through it. There are also phases related to my present life that impact how I feel about therapy and how I go about it (especially big stuff like births and deaths, relationships changing or ending, big career changes etc.). Sticking with it, allowing it to unfold, accepting what comes up as best I can is the process.

For example sometimes I just feel such intense grief or sadness relating much more to what I'm discussing in therapy than to non-therapy current life events. I see that as the process: learning about myself by experiencing all of that and learning how to experience that and not be undone by it.