No therapist has ever told me to fight the process and I imagine that would be countr productive!
Had your t asked you to fight the process Stopdog?
I see the process as a relatioship between me and t, neither of us is sure where we are going exactly but we trust the process to guide us through this journey. We both have to work hard on the relationship and most of the work happens between sessions when we process what we discussed. As we work through stuff together we move on to the next stage but only when are both ready and clear about the last stage.
Like the others said it happens in stages.
Grief, denial, rage, sadness, psychosis etc...
In between sessions we try apply what we learned to real life and reflect on what was discussed.