Oh, I have that feeling about so many songs, a lot of them oldies now. Going all the way back to Elvis: It's Now or Never, "my love won't wait." Excuse me, but that sounds to me like "put out or get out." Ditto for many of Gary Puckett's songs. Lady Willpower, for one. The very next line after the title is that same wording, "it's now or never, give your love to me..." and then he tries to shame her with, "Did no one ever tell you about the facts of life? Well, there's so much you have to learn." Puckett's This Girl Is a Woman Now more than hints, the difference between a girl and a woman is, a woman says yes.

And Bobby Vee did a song that sounds so beautiful on the surface, but it's insulting when you hear the words. Come Back When You Grow Up, Girl, in other words, when you're willing to spread 'em. "You're still living in a paper doll world. Soon you'll be a woman...."

In my opinion, coercing a woman into having sex by shaming her and calling her immature if she doesn't want to, is just as bad as rape.

But I do think you can be "too much" of a feminist, if it gets into hating all men. I prefer to think of myself as an egalitarian. I don't think either gender should be held superior, or put down. Men and women will always be different, but "equal" doesn't mean "identical."