Thankyou everyone for your support...

Its been a dreadful few weeks and lots has happened. My Partner was allowed to leave the hospital, but his Mother said she did not want him staying with her! So she phoned an old friend of hers and he's been staying there with her two grown up children. The place he's staying is about ten mins drive from his Mothers house, and he's been going to his Mums to do his washing and the occasional meal.

I have broken contact with his Mother as she was still trying to dominate the situation. One of the things was her trying to arrange for the kids to come to her house to see their Dad. I told her if they were to see their Dad it would be something him and I would be arranging and on a 'neutral' ground.

At first he was ringing the children every few days for a few mins at a time via their mobiles. But, that soon dwindled.
Then two days back I bumped into him whilst waiting for a bus. I asked that we chatted about the situation. And I was quite surprised to hear him asking me if his Mother had been her usual dominating self! He said how she had been barging her way into ALL his sessions with his psychiatrist and he had been overwelmed by her demands. He also said he had told the staff in the hospital how she had at times interfered in our relationship. I told him how upset the whole situation had made me, and the kids and he seemed to show a sense of guilt. We chatted about him saying he wanted to move out and he said that he felt his mental health was too much for me to handle. That his anger issues were a big thing for him, and he wanted me to have a better life. He held my hand when I became emotional. And said he would always love me, I was his 'first love'. His level of empathy and understanding were actually really overwelming. And for that brief while I felt the person I fell in love with was talking to me. He hugged me, leant in and kissed my face & deep kissed me a few times. Those moments took me by surprise, but it felt really good. I guess I was enjoying the tenderness that I've missed for so long.
I told him to call me to arrange something for him to see the kids. And I also made him know that he was welcome to drop by to collect anything he needed from the house. ALL his stuff is still here, and he has a LOT of things. We said our goodbyes, and I walked away feeling like I had forged some kind of friendship link with him at least. Maybe I was even a little bit carried away with it all..

Anyway, that was two days ago and I've not heard a thing since. His phone has been switched off all that time....I cant contact him. The kids cant contact him, and they haven't spoken to him all week. I'm feeling really angry today..Almost like he had lied to me during that conversation we shared, and had only said what he felt I wanted to hear. It really hurts. Not only for myself, but why isn't he bothering with the kids, despite me telling him how much they were hurting & needed to know he cares!