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Originally Posted by sandysue44
I am in a very complicated and abusive relationship. I made the mistake of letting him move in with me. In the past he got drunk and physically assaulted me several times. He went to jail for that and a dui. His things are in my spare bedroom and legally I can't get them out. I made the mistake of having him legally evicted from the trailer park I live in. Later the manager assumed he was living with me and had me evicted. I told her he was not living with me which is true, he is living with a friend down the street. He is abusive verbally at times and is not at all what I want in my life. I need to get him out peacefully. He has a court date, and I don't want to see him go to jail again but I would like to see a way to get him out peacefully. If I ever call the cops again I will be evicted. In the past I have run out of my house screaming and no one helped me. No one wants to get involved. I was told the reason I was to be evicted was because I ran out of my house screaming. So if he ever physically assaulted me I could not ask for help. I don't want to live this way. I'd like to join Christian Mingle. I am 59. He is 41. I'd like to meet a decent Christian man who doesn't smoke or drink excessively my own age. I want some stability and peace in my life. I need him out of my life peacefully. I want his things out of my home too. I need to start a new life free from abuse and misery.
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This relationship probably won't get any better. You are right in wanting to end it peacefully. You've had enough trauma already and it would seem a good thing for you to make a clean break. Let go of the past and believe you can get the stability and peace that you so desire. Everyone deserves no less. You are courageous in looking at the situation with this abusive person for what it is and ending it before it gets even worse. I lived with physical abuse (a husband who was ten years younger than me) for over fifteen years. Some men will prey on women, and use and abuse them, then throw them to the curb. When a woman is significantly older than her partner, she is vulnerable on so many fronts. Don't leave yourself open to more abuse. My husband was in jail four different times during the course of our marriage. It turns out he's bipolar, but hey they is no excuse for violence--nothing is. Take good care of yourself.
