Yeah, I've been told stg similar by my 1st (and for a long time only) T. It's supposed to be empowering. IDK, maybe it works for some ppl but this kind of attitude nearly destroyed me. I was depressed, having flashbacks/nightmares and I thought it was all my fault. If I just pushed harder... like I needed another reason to hate myself. Ended up doing tons of self-destructing behaviour in order to "cure" myself.