I don't mind being called mam at all. I think it's a respectful, polite term to address someone you don't know. It bothers me when I know they know i'm married and call me miss instead of mrs. because i'm married. I would feel the same way if I were called young lady. I am an adult, I am a lady. I agree with your thoughts on that. I would not like to be called lady though because that is Not used as a polite term for a woman. The largest problem is ignorance. these things are not taught anymore and not enough people read books that aren't new and popular to understand the connotations of each term. the only things that I feel add age to you are granny, grams, grandma, nana, etc. It should also be forgiven if they have no idea to address you, that's not their fault. Another problem with today. People are so easily insulted, and nothing is the right way.