I'm really glad that talking to her helped.

What helps is different depending on the person and it might take a bit of trial and error for what does help you. It could be thinks like accountability, physical safety and comfort, kind and comforting words, someone to listen, someone to help you find resources/other supports.

It would really depend on what was going on and how you needed/wanted to address the issue. Can you think of a time where you wanted someone to help with something (even something small) and look at what would have made you feel better, or what they did and what they could have done differently? Or think of a scenario and what you would do to try and help someone who was struggling - real or imagined. Sometimes it can help to distance yourself a bit by thinking of someone else.

Good luck