Tomi,

I believe that spirits can and do visit us. Maybe he is around you because you are thinking of him so much and he recognizes that you need the comfort he can give you. Maybe you are more receptive to him now than others he might also visit, or, who is to say that he is only hanging around you? Spirits are not subject to physical limitations such as how long it takes us to travel from one place to another.

The fact that you aren't thinking about your ex-MIL so much doesn't mean that you aren't grieving appropriately for her or didn't love her enough or any of those things. It's possible that you already did some of the grieving for her back when she was not so much a part of your life anymore. Or maybe it isn't the time right now for you to be thinking of her, and maybe you will think about her more at some other time - maybe two at once is just more than you can process. Just a couple of ideas, but remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Wendy

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