oddly, anger is more likely to make me cry than any grief or pain. i cry of frustration, of overwhelm, of stress, of failure to mangle, maim and crush the object of my anger. i have been struggling with anger all my life. not just anger, but rage, berserker, feel-no-pain- rage. here is what i have come to:

do not sustain anger -- let it go as fast as one can, saying things like: This is killing ME, i have to stop feeling this,,, whoo whooo,, (blow it out).

do not feed anger with reasons why it's unavoidable; how right you are to feel it; how it is in control of you; how strong it is; how good it would feel to let it out... etc.

think of anger as a poison - seek every antidote for the sake of your life. anger eats YOU, not those you blame for it.

that old saying about counting to 10 really works,, only count to 20, 1001, 1002, 1003,,,, and count your breath, and slow the counting the second time, to slow your heart beat; and remember to eat something after a fit of anger, which will release so much adrenalin that you will be exhausted.

notice what feeling anger does to your body, your thoughts, your actions, the other people around you, your reputation, etc,, nothing good, i assure you.

learn to reject anger the way you would rotten food... there is no emotion that is not better to feel than anger: sadness, grief, shame, despair, longing, loneliness; all are better for you than anger... pick one, preferably forgiveness.

and then do it all again.

best wishes~
Gus