Why don't you each make your own list about yourself?

Like...

"When I do any of the following then you need to call my T:
1, 2, 3, 4, 5." And make various outlines. Maybe a few things you would want him to call the pdoc immediately. Maybe others are lighter signs and might just need your H to pay more attention. Maybe when you start doing X or Y you want to make sure that Miguel gets checked in on.

Then it wouldn't be your H making the decision for you - you will have made the decision while stable, and he's just following your instructions. It would be the same for him. You wouldn't make the phone calls unless the things on the list dictated it (of course, you both need to agree with the other's list and it would probably help for your Ts to go over them to see if they're a good list.