anti-social personality disorder...sorry, it's long...

my mother has done some really terrible things in the last few months, causing her to get kicked out of my great grandmother's house, losing the car she was driving, getting jailed for a few days, and now she has a charge of identity theft coming for her via my great grandmother. she took out a ton of credit cards in my great grandmother's name, spent all the credit, didn't pay it off, and then filed bankruptcy under my great grandmother's name. meanwhile, she forged my great grandmother's signature on a file that granted her power of attorney, which she then used to file a lawsuit against an auction company that stole a bunch of items worth around $16k at least, meaning she'd get that money before my great grandma would. she had also been siphoning off money from my great grandma's bank account through online buying and possibly even withdrawals from the bank. AND, as if all of this wasn't enough, she had been growing marijuana on my great grandma's back deck all summer - a total of 43 plants, to be exact. she had lied to my great grandmother, saying that it was now legal in our state to grow up to three plants for personal use only (which it is NOT, by the way), and my great grandma didn't know how many there were until she kicked her out and called the police to come collect the plants. there was a guy involved, he is probably about 17 or 18, same age as my brother, who my great grandmother said my mother clearly stated he couldn't have any of the plants, but when she went to trial she claimed they were all his and she didn't have anything to do with it.

my great grandma is 87 years old. she has done a lot of crazy stuff, but there is no way in hell that my mother could post on Facebook with a straight face that everything that I've explained above has nothing to do with her and that my great grandmother is entirely in the wrong, unless she is a sociopath.

she has always been a liar. i have never been able to trust her. she is fine when everything is going her way, but the second things start going downhill she blames everyone but herself. everyone else is crazy and horrible and she's an angel. but she is a backstabber. my great grandmother gave her a home and food and clothes and she turns around and ruins her good credit and her awesome house and badmouths her to everyone she knows, all over Facebook. she posts those stupid chain pics about how she hates drama and how she wishes her family would stop the drama but dear God, she's the one who's been screwing up this whole time! she basically told me to go screw myself when I told her that I knew what she had done but I was going to be a bigger person and try to forgive her. these people who she claims are her friends, they don't know her. they haven't lived with her for six years, aren't her kids. they don't know a damn thing about what kind of person she really is. but a person who DOES and tries to be okay with it for as long as I have, lets her know that she's still got somebody if she'd just straighten up, she says to **** off. that's real smart.

but anyway...i am pretty sure that she has anti-social personality disorder. i don't know why but i do know there's nothing i can really do about it. she's shut me out, but that's fine with me. i'm just hoping that i'm not anything like her.

if she gets sent up for the identity theft, though, what do i tell my kids when they get old enough to wonder why they don't have any family on my side? i don't have a dad, i pretty much don't have a mom now, and my grandparents aren't going to be around forever. i don't ever want them to deal with my mother ever again. i have reasons other than the ones mentioned here, too, so it's not just because of recent events. she's a toxic person, and i don't want that anywhere near my kids. they will have enough trouble having to deal with me and my own craziness.

it's just really stressful and i haven't posted about it yet but figured i might as well now that things have cooled down. all of this happened about a month ago, so my mother has been living God knows where since she was released from jail. i don't know where my brother is. i just hope he's safe, but i know he probably hates me and the rest of the family now because she's fed him all these lies about us...