I'm a 25 yr old female and have only (definitely) had 3 orgasms in my life.

I have masturbated since I was a child and have always been able to experience pleasure whilst doing so in 2-5 minutes. However it often feels more like the pleasure starts to build, hits a point and then abruptly stops and usually I don't feel much of a release. The only way I can get this pleasurable feeling is by lying prone, on my cupped hands which I rub on. I have tried just rubbing directly or touching my **** and so has my partner, but this gets little reaction.

When my partner performs oral sex, it is a different story. It's a very intense feeling, but completely different to when I masturbate (which is milder but pleasurable from beginning to end, whereas with oral sex is TOO intense). Oral sex is pleasurable but very strong and I can only bear it for a short time before I literally have to pull away because I can't bear it any longer.

I have also tried a vibrator but no matter how long I try, and where I focus it, I don't feel anything building.

So my questions are- has anyone else ever struggled with the pleasure/pain syndrome when trying to orgasm? And have you overcome it? Has anyone ever struggled, like me, with trying to orgasm through masturbation unless it's done in a very specific way?

My theory in general is that it's mostly psychological- the times when I have managed to orgasm I've either been asleep and therefore uninhibited, or feeling extremely turned on...

Any words of wisdom at all (relating to female orgasm) would be greatly appreciated.