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Originally Posted by bunnylove45
And, what about a heterosexual female client experiencing heightened sexual feelings for a heterosexual male therapist that does not stem from some unmet childhood needs.
Feelings that develop in the 'here and now'.
Can't two adults feel a strong attraction to one another without having to trace it back to some emotional lackluster childhood event?
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The way we love
is all about the infant - the blueprint for all future loving relationships is that early relationship with mother. That is where it begins. All love is 'here and now' and isn't about unmet needs necessarily; it can be about needs that were met!! As Hankster says, it's not about 'an event', it just 'is' - it's how we develop and become feeling beings.
For some, when there are unfulfilled needs from infancy, the therapeutic relationship can give us the opportunity to 'go back' and do some reparative work. This can only be done with a therapist who understands it and who doesn't act out with the client in a sexual way. As adults those early love feelings will be translated into adult sexual feelings. That is normal.
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