Here it is paraphrased.

A lot of us have a hard time finding out who the real "me" is. We need to stop trying to be what others expect us to be and just try to be ourself and be comfortable with that.

Then he talked about an example of another client that had a hard time knowing what even her favorite food or favorite activities were. She was always trying to please everyone else instead of thinking of what she'd like to do.

He then was saying that the changes require change in behavior, thinking, and experience. He mentioned that I needed to experience beign loved by friends and family, and even the comfort that I feel in being in counseling is helpful as he shows me that I'm really OK.

All of these things are supposed to help me find out the "real" me, so that no matter where I am, I'm the same. . .as in the past it seemed like I hide parts of myself depending on who was in the room.