The way we love is all about the infant - the blueprint for all future loving relationships is that early relationship with mother. That is where it begins. All love is 'here and now' and isn't about unmet needs necessarily; it can be about needs that were met!! As Hankster says, it's not about 'an event', it just 'is' - it's how we develop and become feeling beings.

For some, when there are unfulfilled needs from infancy, the therapeutic relationship can give us the opportunity to 'go back' and do some reparative work. This can only be done with a therapist who understands it and who doesn't act out with the client in a sexual way. As adults those early love feelings will be translated into adult sexual feelings. That is normal.

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