And I cannot deny that, yes, I am fat (5'11" and 270, size 18/20). And I have been so throughout our entire marriage. He used to be quite heavy, too, until a couple years ago when he started inexplicably losing weight. It turned out he developed type 2 diabetes and losing weight can be one of the side effects of that diabetes getting out of control. He has since gotten the diabetes under control and has managed to maintain the weight loss, as well.

A few months ago, we had a discussion over our lackluster sex life and the possible causes of such and there are a couple issues, like porn and masturbation, that we discussed, but he also admitted that he finds me less attractive now because of my weight. I have been trying to make some positive changes in this area of my life. I've been tracking everything I eat and was trying to be more active, at least until I badly sprained my ankle a few weeks ago. I've been slowly seeing some weight loss, but nothing dramatic.

And tonight he made a comment that size 20 women shouldn't wear yoga pants. I mentioned that I am a size 20 and asked him if he thought I shouldn't wear yoga pants. I didn't speak to him the rest of the evening. I have spent the last two hours crying in the bathroom. Am I being overly sensitive? I've have spent the majority of my life being overweight, but I've also been pretty active. I ski, swim, kayak, walk, do yoga, zumba - No not 5 days a weeks, but usually a couple times a week.

I had planned on stepping up my efforts to get more fit, but now I feel that if I do lose weight and all of a sudden my husband finds me attractive again that I will resent him. I already do resent him. I don't want him to believe that I'm doing it for him. I'm so angry with him about this. I feel robbed of any motivation I may have had and I feel like my already non-existent self-esteem has taken another beating. I feel like this could end our marriage.

I don't even know how to address this with my husband and try to repair the damage.